Hi there, I’m glad to see you signed up for an email consultation! Email consultations are for getting answers to a few questions you have on specific aspects of rebooting, receiving feedback and advice on recovery strategy, etc. Email consultations are not comprehensive coaching, so please limit your email to 750 words. If you can’t comfortably fit into that limit, you’d probably benefit more from phone/Skype coaching, in which we have time to thoroughly review your situation and form a comprehensive plan for recovery. That said, when you write to me, the more important details you include related to your questions, the better I’ll be able to help you. Common background information that’s important:
•How old you are, and how long you’ve been masturbating/using pornography
•What your porn habits are (frequency, type of content, length of sessions), and if that’s changed at all over the years
•What sexual experience you have and whether or not you think you might have any porn-induced sexual dysfunctions, like erectile dysfunction, desensitization, lack of sex drive, etc.
•Whatever other porn-related problems you’re concerned with
•What, exactly, your goals are and how I can help you best
•If you currently have a romantic/sexual partner, and how much they know about your recovery
•How long you have been rebooting away from porn (if at all), and what’s changed for you in that time
•Lastly, take a look at this test I developed to gauge porn addiction and let me know your results: http://addictedtointernetporn.com/?p=97
Obviously, these are for people struggling with porn-related problems personally—if you are a partner of someone with a porn problem, answer for them as best you can. When you’re ready, just email me with your story and questions at “firstname.lastname@example.org”, and I’ll respond within five days.
For now, I’ll link you to a PDF copy of my book, Wack: Addicted to Internet Porn. Among other things, it contains:
• A scientific exploration of Internet porn’s effects on its users
• An examination of how the rise of porn has influenced our culture
• Dozens of personal accounts of porn addiction and recovery (including my own)
• A complete, 13-step guide for those who would like to quit the porn habit and heal themselves of porn-induced symptoms
• An analysis of how parents must evolve to raise children in a pornified world
It’s the most complete launch pad I could provide to empower people to make their own informed choices and change their lives for the better. I highly recommend giving it a read, and let me know what you think.
We’ll talk soon!
Noah BE Church